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[sparkles]

Sooo very true my friend, so let me think there is about 0.1% of the male population who dont fit this lol porve me wrong!!!

[Andy]

When you get past a certain age you find everyone is messed up a bit. Some more than others. we're all victims of our own experiences.

a couple more to add to the list.

the procrastinator -
people who say they will do things and then don't have no respect for you. Most likely self-centered and only "care" about you when it suits them or they want something. Although some people like this are compulsive pleasers. They can't help themselves and renege in the cold light of day rationalizing their position in their own favor. The later can at least be taught the downsides of such behavior.

the loose enders-
people who apparently have nothing better to do than chat on msn all day/night. I know some people like to be social and perhaps don't see that many people during the day but still if people don't have their own interests and aren't sometimes busy doing them, how interesting can they really be?

[Lil Lue22]

Wow that is deep real deep. You kno what that is really true because i've dated a few girls like that. That is so messed up.

[just a girl...]

"When you get past a certain age you find everyone is messed up a bit. Some more than others. we're all victims of our own experiences. "

i disagree. some people play into the victim role, and yeah, i'd stay away from that. but most, i'd like to think, are products and/or survivors of their environments.

necessity: open-mindedness.
necessity: non-judgmental.
necessity: honesty.

it seems kind of negative to list what you don't want rather than what you do want. yes, there are safety precautions that must be taken. be the person you want to attract; do unto others....

it seems to me that while these things "to avoid" may be guidelines, but if you are sitting there judging a person based on what little knowledge you've gleaned from one or two dates, perhaps you should turn the mirror toward yourself. just a thought. i'd say the same thing to someone who is looking for a person to "be the other half"... i'd like for whomever i meet to like the whole me, as i am. not another half. and if you're looking for someone based on how much money they make? i feel sorry for both you and your dates. no offense intended.

[Resonantg]

Just one that you forgot...the alcoholic.

I'd just say, call them 'The Addict', and you've nailed it. Addiction can be chemical or psychological to anything. Drugs, booze, sex, video games, internet, TV, sports, exercise, food.... you name it. But all will put the addiction in front of the relationship.

Thankfully I don't fit any of these... Well *I* don't think I fit any of these, my ex's may differ.

[YimTherauh]

How bout the chronic screaming at the top of their lungs independent woman?

Its fine to be independent but if your looking for a relationship hows that work?
Independent - alone,single,self sufficient
Relationship - not alone, not single, improved effieciency

I'm trying to understand how to take it when they say "I'm an independent woman!"
As soon as I hear that its a major turn off and it clicks in my head that they want to be alone cause they aren't willing to give up some independance to create a real relationship.I think to have a chance at a real relationship its a must and these types aren't ready for it or so it seems to me.

My ex was like that or felt she kind of sad after 10 years of trying to build a family with her it all got flush down the tubes because after reading enough cosmo, daily horoscopes and whatever else she believed she was even though she lived with me, didn't work often etc..etc...Eventually since she wouldn't work with me and felt she didn't have to I unfortunately had to help her truelly liberate herself cause she wouldn't let me through this wall and let me be her best friend and anyways she wasn't independent till I let her go wasn't easy and painful but my truck always has the same amount of gas it did when I got out of it and I have at least an extra $20.00 bucks a day.

Kinda Reminds me of a song

And the bees they had stung her
The birds they had flown
There were guys she could number
But none had she know
And she never had dreams
So they never came true

The last to lines I would change to 'believed in love instead of 'dreams' I think

When I whispered
I thought I could lover her
She just said BABY
Don't even bother to try!
And I watched as she spoke
Her words chilled my bones

Independent = Likes being alone imo

[Formula]

Lol. I really liked number one. Very good and truthful advice though.

[Krusty64]

1st date you go out for dinner and your date expects you to pay for her dinner. Is she a moocher?
1st date you go out for dinner and your date will not let you pay for her dinner. Is she an independent woman?
Confused? YES. I don't want either a moocher or an independent woman, what I want is an equal partner who will be open-minded, non-judgemental, honest and have a personallity that is compatable with mine to share my life with me equally.
"Just a girl" I agree with you whole heartedly that material things and how much money you earn should not come into a dating. If you are only interested in the material things that a partner can bring into a relationship then you are not interested in the person themselves.
I think what we have to do is stop looking for the negative in everybody and start to look at the positive side of people because no matter what you think nobody is perfect, not even YOU.

[~AwesomeMike~]

#5

I hate the jealous type but for me it was bad my ex was so jealous i cant talk to my female coworkers with out her thinking something going on if you know im coming home to you everynight on time loving everything about you why wood i cheat.

[Jamaican_Dream]

Great advice. The worst date that I've been on involved a guy who simply talked too much. His mouth was his worst enemy. He basically told me that his ex-girlfriend called him a whiny, b*ch and that he acted like a girl. Within 30 minutes I decided this guy was a loser. All he did was brag and boast about what he had, etc. He owned a convertible mercedes that was $1600/mth and a paid off Navigator with butterfly doors while his mortgage was a mere $750/mth. A forty-something driving around in a truck with butterfly doors, how ridiculous. Then he preceded to tell me about his previous job in which he was fired. I basically told him that his priorities are really skewed and he needed to grow up since he's in his forties not twenties. Most established women aren't for the now but for the future. It was really sad to see a grown man act so petty and childish. He told me that I didn't appreciate a man that is honest and can communicate. Yes, I appreciated his honesty because he basically saved me from wasting my time on a second date.