Zoosk Dating Community

[WK40]

OK people here's a few things I've noticed

#1- The guys are getting slammed here for listing exactly what they want in a woman ( bra size etc) But yet the women all want " Tall Dark And Handsome" I'm 5'11" slim build and average looking I think....so personally I think 48 yr old women looking for Tom Selleck is a bit much.

#2- Read the ladies ads, most say something like " I'm 48, I don't have time for a man, I don't need a man. Well if that's the case why are you here? Being fiercly independant is not always a good thing ladies. We all need to be taken care of from time to time, and it makes you sound unapproachable.

#3- And most importantly, OPPOSITES REALLY DO ATTRACT....So if you're listing everything you like to do but aren't open to trying new things, good luck to you. People tend to like other people who compliment their weaknesses not their strengths. It brings a balance to things in a relationship


Just my two cents worth people, really doesn't count for much but hey.

[G.R.]

I am getting ready to tweak my date card a bit and am open to suggestions like some of the guys have said. Here is my take for the ladies based on my observations.

#1: At least mention what your relationship status is...an "unknown" gives a message of a likelihood of not being available. If you are not available, why join this club?

#2. While a photo with a friend isn't bad, at least have one solo photo. We guys could use a clue whose date card we are viewing.

#3. Photos with another man go along with the earlier post of pictures of the men with another woman, especially those if the photo shows a hug or kiss. Sure, it may be a relative, but we don't know that. I'd be more interested in you than your exes.

#4. Leave out the photos of pets unless you are with the pet - at least do not make the pet photo the main one. Pets are OK, but I'm not out to date a 6-year-old Schnäuzer.

#5. Flipping the bird to the photographer is not exactly a dude magnet. It conveys a "my way or the highway" message.

#6. Give realistic and honest information...and plenty of it. Photos in low-cut tops are OK, but please do more with the card...there are plenty of ladies who are in good condition. A good exterior appearance is not the entire package. You know it, we know it, share it! Also spend some time on the site regularly...you joined, some of you have invested the $60, at least make use of it.

[xKittyxKinzx]

Ok to all you men out there that have date cards requesting "slim, attractive, no kids" on their profiles, for GOD"S SAKES at least be average in weight, not looking like your 15 months pregnant. Also on that same note, be attractive yourself! What I am seeing out there is unshaven, missing teeth men with clothing that has greese stains and holes on them! YUK

Lol.
Wow.
I must say.
That is kinda messed up.
Maybe that is just the older guys, but the guys around my age.
DAYUMM!
They are all pretty fine
I like the guys who aren't shaven.

[Henry]

I think to mention if you are open to dating other races on your datecard will help attract more people as I do. Also be positive on your datecard. Don't say what you don't want ( drug-users, liars, mama boys) express what qualities you like (healthy-life style, responsible, ambitious).

[Tas]

I've had people tell me it makes me look bad that I only have a couple pictures. Sorry that I don't have the on-hand funds to replace my old camera. Also, I hate professional photographers. I feel so fake when they're telling me to sit here, turn to the right, arm here, tilt your head blah blah blah.

[Andy]

The trouble with about me type sections is, what you *are* like matters much more than what you like and yet most people's ability to describe what they *are* like is pretty limited at best and at worst hopelessly inaccurate and not in a good way. As such to force people into writing blocks of txt effectively segregates the site into those who are good at writing descriptively and those who aren't.

It's all too easy and probably natural to take a dislike to someone who does a bad or limited job of describing themselves and/or fills up with less important in the scheme of things 'I like' stuff that a reader has no particular affinity with or knowledge of.

For myself I find no amount of good advice can alleviate the fact that I suck badly when it comes to formulating sentences that involve illustrating myself descriptively. Like I'm pretty sure I'm awesome in some ways but I just don't go around thinking of myself in descriptive terms and I'm pretty sure a lot of other people don't either.

The moral of this message is that if you think you're bad at description it's better to stick with a minimal/vague profile than potentially shoot yourself in the foot over writing more/specifics. You always have the opportunity to be yourself in a message, which is a more natural medium these days what with the familiarity people have with IM and txting

[Caren]

Someone mentioned the whole blank date card thing and how it's annoying. It's true. Why would you be on here, have a completely blank date card, and expect anyone to respond? True, people may reply because of your looks, but what does that tell you? Hey, you hace a nice face, or hey you have a nice body...but who are you? Just a pretty face?

I think it's best, when filling out your date card, to be honest about who you are and put some thought into it. It's only a date card, but if you can't take 5 minutes and put some thought into what you want people to know about you, then what does that tell them about you? This could mean you're lazy, you're secretive, you don't really care, you're trying to pick up people based solely on looks...or maybe you're too shy to put anything up there and you want someone to contact you to know you better. But if you can't fill out the card, then why even put yourself up here?

And advice to some guys...

When you email a girl saying "Ma you hot, or Sup sexy, or hey baby"...that's not very attractive. That screams "Please be my new booty call." It's always nice to receive compliments, but learn to have a little class. I hate when I get those messages. I am nobody's ma or baby and I'm certainly not up for grabs in a hit it and quit it deal.

[GrenadierAl]

Yes well it seems that even with a good date card, having some one send a message to you is a game of luck. I've typed well over a paragraph for each section, and nothing, but this seems like a waiting game unless your actively associating with people (which is the only way this can work).

[Vladimir]

Yes, that’s right. Your Date Card is the first impression you make on a potential match, so it’s important to get it right.

Below are a few tips to help make sure your online dating profile is really working for you. If you’re looking for more ideas, or would like some feedback on your Date Card, visit the Zoosk community.

1. Don’t just tell; show what you are all about. Instead of telling what kind of person you are, let your personality reveal itself. List your favorite songs instead of saying something like “I like alternative rock.” Better yet, link your Netflix or ### accounts to your Zoosk Date Card so prospective dates can see the movie titles and songs you enjoy.

I have objection on this. I come from a small country (comparing with US), and I cannot tell the singer/ress; actor/ress I like, because no one out of my region can understand me.
Also, there is dilemma between writing on my own language and writing English.

[Vladimir]

Ok to all you men out there that have date cards requesting "slim, attractive, no kids" on their profiles, for GOD"S SAKES at least be average in weight, not looking like your 15 months pregnant. Also on that same note, be attractive yourself! What I am seeing out there is unshaven, missing teeth men with clothing that has greese stains and holes on them! YUK

I have a question for you: How can a man write something else to a woman when she has almost blank date card (only physical characteristics )?