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[fraggle]

This should be posted to all new males who enrol/subscribe to dating stite. It's amazing how lacking in these areas they are.

[spectrumshade]

A lot of helpful tips

[dave87]

aww im gona enjoy this one.....for al of you who read this, take note there is a reason im very much single.


First point:- Men are idiots...lets just face it, we kinda are, not all of us but we mostly are, we have a pure lack of self control an the ones that do have are scared to let women or people in close in case of ###th this said in many years of studying the human condiction tht is lust i come to many conclusions some of which are funny an some of which are harsh. The main difference in a man an women is a pure simple fact, men 97% know excactly what they want from a women or life, but compared to a women whos lower around 58%, sad as this may be but men generally think with male parts leading to the 2 simple thoughts, (does she do it for me, and is she boring)....once hes thought of this an considered u are or arent its pretty much either there nor ### for the women though, taking much consideration to weither she even goes on the date or see's a man is another question all together. So on my thoughts to the first few headings i would have to give men this advice.

When you first meet a women regardless of what she wants or not, if she doesnt want you then she doesnt,no amount of woo'ings gona change that lads.
Flowers on a first date, is cheesy but women these days i find wudnt no how to take a complement if it hit them in the face..so with tht one sed as well try funny.
Do not complement a womens, hair untill the 3rd date an uve gotten a bit closer, coz if u love a women enough her hair will smell of summer time everytime u get a wiff, and dont complement anything they wear untill ur dating for atleast 4 months(personal experince women like reasurence but at the same time the "you look great in nomatter wat u wear" jst dont cut it)
You can be the biggest a** in the world but nomatter wat u say youll still get her attenstion, sadly there is alot of supervisial ladies out there that regardless of what you say they will laugh at, so if ur the sweet an sensitive man, please avoid.
But without a doudt the best way to act around a women, is to e confident in something you can do, no matter wat it is an play on that, weither that be your funny, smart or just a pure player if you u seem like you no wat ur doing then you will be ok.

secondly!:-Being that i'm slightly anti-women or so it would seem i still have the nagging feeling ill get moaned at for this post so with that said ill go on to say something profound an cute........ women are crazy!all of them, in some way shape or form are. Well within reason that is. In all the types of women that i have met in my life its safe to say for all the crazy they are they are weird but wonderful creatures sure they dont always seem it, but when you meet one that makes something special, you'll learn to get past the crazy. So my one an final tip for a man.....

Find the women that laughs with you, even if your being a dork, dont waste ur time on the what if's or the lassie that serves u coffee, chances are she'd paid to be nice to you. Instead, find some1 worth talking too, where'eva she is shes gona be out there, but remember all the advice in the world cant help you when you meet her, ur gonna have to be ready to let her in, women like confidence but after while you need to stop being confident an be the man you want to be around her, not like over night but you'll understand what i mean when you find it......oh an one last thing, be silly, be charming but make her laugh an itll make things a thousand times easier

ps...i dont no about you, but id rather embarress myself for a knock back then to be always regreting talking to that pretty thing someplace that you always see, be brave

thanks

[Afshin]

thanks alot

it`s so instructive for me
learn very thing about girl

[Latin]

I'll make this simple, because women like to think that we men are like 5th graders or something.

Men: Be fun and smile when you talk! Make sure she's aware of when you're joking and when you're serious. (half joking/half serious is when your "playing the game" ) In conversation, eye contact is on her face and not on the environment or her other more *ahem* accentuated assets. (its okay to break eye contact on occasion)

Don't talk so much. You got up the courage to go up to her and say something to her. Now find out what you want to know about her. A good conversationalist will use questions and use ways to lead people to answers and also relate the conversation to their own particular story. Make sure though to keep your story short AND postive.

During the conversation:
Be a man. Have her follow your lead not the other way around. Mirror her body language at times. (this may help her open up a little) Also a few studies have indicated that 55-93 percent of communication is non-verbal. So this will help you direct the conversation a bit. Listen with your eyes as well as your ears.

Here's the bottom line: Confident men can express opinions and asks questions, but more importantly they listen to others and don't feel they have to talk all the time. And some times a bit of silence and a relax eye contact says it all to women. That's a guarantee!

[RedCrossKnight]

DrZiz said everything I wanted to say. Mad props.

[Richard]

In a nutshell be confident, fun and playful. Talk to her emotional brain, not her logical brain. Dont compliment unless shes earned it or its meant sincerely and not a way of trying to get something from her. Women often think men compliment them and kiss their ass as a way of getting something, like shes supposed to do something in return. Other women enjoy the compliments but compliments will NOT make her feel attracted to u.

[kmx210]

well put mancer. latin? seriously? lets stop classifying. everyone has situations. different opinions. i have met a women who want a good guy. i have also met woman who get turned off by the good guy routine. in all. i think its just about checkin out whats right for you. first impressions matter and if your not you on your first impression your only lying to your self and she will be expecting the other you. you gain nothing from this. i feel that by the end of a date if you two are comfortable with eachother then you did something right. keep doing what it is your doing. the advice the post give is good. so if your not naturally charismatic thatn follow that advice. not to close. be nice. have manners. but remember make it a goal for both of you to feel comfortable. thats my 50 cents to you all. =P

kmx210
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[jenna rose]

well what can i say why do people have to complicate things why cant people just go out and enjoy life, why make it more than it is people need to learn how to relax. stop trying to always get it right and just be yourself stop trying to be perfect after all we are not perfect we are human and we all have faults just go have fun no matter what

[TK]

It seems all fairly straight forward for both camps. If we just be ourselves, which will obviously encompass respect first and foremost without following set rules and regulations, then the "talking" will come naturally. No one needs a "how to do" guide. It should be inside all of us.