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[Soulportal]

I understand what you are saying but having experienced it in prior relationships and through what my friends have gone though, its not something I can put up with. Yes I understand as humans we all have a bit of insecurities here and there but to make it as part of a relationships only makes it bad.

It may start of small but people who are insecure only make it bigger over time. They make mountains out of molehills and put strain in a relationship. Is insecurity is worth the relationship ? Think about it.

AK

Only you know what you can and can not accept or tolerate in a relationship we all have our limitations. The insecurities that exist in a person, don't have to get out of control, it sometimes just takes some effort, to keep them at bay. I believe in a relationship two people need to manage each other's expectations and insecurities.

However, in order to keep this thread based on the "subject of inferiority" an insecurity is in fact manageable while being treated "inferior" by someone my not necessarily be, at least not without some type of therapeutic intervention (same holds true for individuals that are too insecure it may be related to wounds caused by past experiences).

In the end it ultimately comes down to, how you see your self and how you want to be seen. I believe, that if I respect, understand, believe and honor myself first and foremost, than I can expect nothing less from my partner or anyone else I may come into contact with.


- Soulportal

[WiTeBoi]

Yes, hahahaha, my friend made fun of me for this for a week. I am a dancer and was at an event where a group of dancers were performing. After their performance and some time went by everyone was on the dance floor having a great time. Then the proverbial cypher formed itself in the center of the wooden floors and everyone was supposed to make their way into the cirlce to perform their moves. Well, a few people went out who were.... eh... ok?...and so my friend went out, got a lot of cheers, thus it was my turn after the fellow from the group went out. I went out and had people cheering, and OF COURSE [roll eyes here] someone wanted to battle... [please roll your eyes once more for a brief pause, thank you.]

I rebutted and had more cheers than he did, and he HAD to "prove himself" by trying something else, it went on a few times, and every time this guy was worse and worse. but one of his friends in the audience kept saying he was better, and I just couldn't believe it! what? this guy is better than me? are you serious?

I couldn't stop thinking about it and kept bugging my friend about it. I felt inferior to this guy, I was completely selling myself to that idea, although I knew there was no possible way. My friend joked and laughed at me for believing it and said forget about it, and I know now looking back on it his friend must have been doing that to stop me and build him up. I know there is no way in Heaven or Earth that he was better, but I had myself sold for a week... oh well, go figure. It happens. So, yeah, I agree that you have to accept inferiority for it to truly be.

[Lloyd]

I agree, stinking thinking is ones own making.