Zoosk Dating Community

[Juliet the Moderator]

As singles, we search for love. It's frustrating at times, rewarding at times, and all around a difficult and necessary journey. But why do you search for love? What are your personal reasons for continuing along the path towards relationship fulfillment?

The reasons we search are unique to each of us. I'm fascinated in hearing about what keeps you going, Zooskers, in your search for a soulmate.

Is it because you don't want to be alone?

Because you want to have a family one day?

Because you have children, and they need both parents?

Because you feel your life isn't complete without love?

Or a combination of many things? What is your reasoning?

[Marilyn]

Whoa, I don't see that having a online dating community profile as my attempt to "look for love." It's so pretentious to believe that we're supposed to find that one soulmate on a planet over populated with people.
I'm not on here for love. I'm on here to find someone I can enjoy spending time with, whether that amount of time be a week, a year, or a lifetime. I don't believe you can go online shopping for soulmates just as easily as you can find a pair of shoes. Sure, it may happen, but love is just supposed to happen. It's supposed to bloom over time. Plus, if you're always on the search for it, how can you stop being anxious and just have fun?
Companionship (and sexual intimacy) is on Maslow's hierarchy of needs with which a person can achieve happiness. We psychologically need people to be happy.
All that aside, I'm on this site to see if there is anyone new to meet.

[Carly]

I am guessing you do not have children Juliet, because most kids already have 2 parents, they are just not together, and if someone would pick a mate to try to complete some void in their chilren's lives, they aren't looking down the right path. Do you think there is just one soul mate? Because if I believed that, I would have already lost mine. And although sometimes I don't like being alone, other times I do. My life is certainly filled with an enormous amount of love already and I have found I need to look within myself to be complete, no one else can do that for me. My life would not be as happy without love, and I know I need some kind of romantic love and intimacy to feel content, but other than that, I suppose I search because someday, I hope to really find the puzzle piece that I have yet to grasp my fingers around!

[Brian]

I myself am fine being alone but it's instictual to want to connect. Humans by nature are communal. Most of us just want to connect with others. We want to share our lives with someone because it brings purpose for are being. That's why facebook does so well. We look for love because we need to find and believe in something that's greater than ourselves.

[Shannon]

Thank you for this insightful question. I hope that others can really look inside themselves and answer these honestly because it is something that should be thought about long and hard before getting out there to find someone to love.

I am a single mom, but my children have a very involved father so they don't need another father, which also means I have a family. I have been single for a year and have many activities and friends in my life to help when I feel a little lonely. I also don't feel that I need someone to make life feel complete as that would mean I myself am not a whole person.

I had to think long and hard about this and it's probably why I have not taken "dating" to a serious level just yet. Looking for love is more about finding someone worth sharing all of these wonderful and beautiful things in life with at a level that friends just can't ###t to mention there's nothing like coming home to the open arms of someone special when you think you've had more than you can take. I'm not sure if I am ready for that full complete sharing level because I want to be able to share in his wonderful and glorious things as well and be able to be there to support him on those bad days.

[Jon]

I joined Zoosk because it is easier to talk and meet new people with out trying to shout over loud music in a bar. I wouldn't say im looking for a sole mate or a fling. I'm just looking for someone to share some time with and see where it goes from there. Being alone is not a problem for me because sometime its easier to be alone than to deal with all the drama that come with a relationship. On the other hand we all need someone to share our thoughts, ideas, and other intimate moments with.

[Angelina_Ace95]

I'm looking because life is too short to waste away. It's best shared with someone special who fills in the gaps. Someone to share the little things and big things with. Someone to laugh and joke around with... someone who will for no reason smile and out of the blue rock your world just because it feels good. Someone to be himself and you be yourself. What more can you ask for??? Love is special and should be shared with that someone. As long as they don't come into your life just to make you someone else... instead take you as you are. No one is perfect, makes things more interesting when it comes to dating and love.

[John]

I believe I don't want to be alone. I spend my entire week alone and its getting really boring very fast. I do go out on Saturdays but it is getting old. I know I should venture elsewhere but doing stuff alone isn't that exciting especially when you don't have someone to enjoy your night with.

I do have a child, I spend a lot of time with her on Saturdays during the day time. My child lives with her mother so I so see her during the week as to she lives approximately 30 minutes from me. I try to call her each day but at times she is busy having dinner or doing her assignment. She is only in kindergarten.

I have been divorced for nine months now and I do feel it is time for me to start seeing someone. I am tempted to just fall head over heals since my life is so incomplete. I am missing something namely a partner in which I can share all the available time I have with her given the fact that Saturdays is visitation days.

In summary, that is my story.

[Jason]

I'm looking for love because I want that special connection. I want to be some gal's man and for her to be my gal.

[Reana LeBlanc]

I'm a sucker for love lol...so ya jk.

Um my reasons that I'm looking for love, not only on online or if it happens in real life. It would be nice if I did find love online because that would be something new that has happened in my life. Love can come at you in different angles, so don't expect anything.

Ok, keep babbling, my reasons are to have someone to connect with, especially emotionally and mentally. I do not think you can find that in this world alot, but it's rare also. I definitely miss every little thing about being in a serious relationship, the hugs and kisses, the falling asleep together, being your natural self around someone totally different from you, it's an amazing feeling. I want to find love because I hope to have my someone, my soulmate, my other half. It does not have to be happening to me right now, but maybe it will grow into that. I'm not here on earth for that silly bull in relationships, I want something serious, not totally serious because I'm a goof ball when I'm hyper lol. The main thing is I want to have someone that I can be myself completely, and we both can recieve what we want from the other person equally and respectfully. I want to be in love, that real love.